Salam…hi all…
I’m driving again today….sigh…and parking was a nightmare in Bangsar! I ended up at a basement parking that cost me $1 per hour…can’t complaint thou. It’s affordable.
I met a dear friend for breakfast at Devi’s (yes, it’s an Indian restaurant). And it just so happen that my youngest sister was in that area too and she joined us for a glass of “pull tea” :-) and thosai (it’s an Indian delicacies…it is something like Roti Canai but its thinner and less cholesterol…I was told. I’m not sure if it’s true).
We chat for 2 hours or so and it was an eye opener! They gave me lots of feedback and ideas on my next stories for my blog. To Sharina and my little sister; thank you. It was a time well spent with you both.
Last night at approximately 10.30pm, I received a bb message from a good friend (a lady). Shocked to be honest because for almost 5 years I’ve known her and her hubby, we never communicate over phone or bb or text messages in the late evening.
And the chat goes like this (bbm language…I copy/paste from my bb…I just change her name):-
Friend: Hi…u up?
Me: Hi…yes…what’s up? U ok?
Friend: Not ok..need to chat. Free?
Me: o dear..yes can chat..H with you? (H is the hubby)
Friend: Travelling..as usual. Me alone. At home. I think my marriage is in trouble
Me: o my…I’m all ears…
Friend: Me and H hardly spend time together. He travel all the time and when he’s home he is too tied up with his mother.
Friend: You know that he is close to his mum…mummy’s boy..sigh..
Me: Yes...i know…but i thought you guys r staying on your own?
Friend: It was a plan…and still remain as plan…sigh..
Me: I remember once I had a chat with H and he did say and agreed that staying with the parents is not a long term plan for you both. What happen than?
Friend: Seems difficult for him to leave the house. His mum disagrees. She said wasting money. The house is big enough for everyone
Friend: But u know….we can’t even have our own hubby wife privacy…everything mum will get involve! I’m losing it!
Me: Hmmmm…(I’m speechless)
Friend: I don’t know what else to do
Friend: Tried to talk to H but he’s like stuck in the middle
Friend: What do u think I should do?
Friend: Maybe u can have a chat with H? Coz he listens to u
Me: Hmm…this is a very delicate situation…I dare not jump into this
Me: Unless H approaches me…u know what I mean..?
Friend: Yah…understand…but I’m losing patience. Can’t take it anymore! Everything mummy 1st, wife 2nd...
Me: Let me bb H...will try to start a conversation…lets c if he opens up…u know how H is....will give it a shot
Me: That’s all I can do…for now
Friend: Yes please…I love my marriage but I can’t stand his mum…too much!
Me: Understand…stay cool ok...try to talk to H again. U’ll never know…don’t stop trying
Friend: Ya ok…i will
Me: He loves u much…I know that…so give him a chance…speak to him
Friend: Yes…I know…
Me: Hang in there...ok..
Friend: Thanks yah…and bb him please…
Me: My pleasure…I will buzz him tomorrow
Me: Don’t think bout it 2 much…now…get some sleep
Friend: Yah ok…thanks SS…let me know if he responds to you
Me: Ok..will do…sleep now! Don’t think 2 much…Nite
Friend: Ok…nite
Conversation over bb ended at 11.18pm
This is a tough situation or issue to handle. The wife wants to leave but the hubby feels that his responsibility to the mother is more important than his own marriage.
![](https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRlaXJok0k-PSHqdWFkX6Y6ceqKiO223IsZDh9ZHpNG-ScvnnRjA_61vJGw-6RG1YRX4CqhBRPd3N059MJ8zzJCA5F0hFNLdFVioEYN2nigOM42Gmb-3aCHie-VzNnR_goy2V2-1SiR-Jk/s320/old+perahu.jpg)
Moral of the story: You must know your priorities…
To H and wife; please talk it over….I’m sure you both can sort it out. Love you both dearly and if you need my help; you know how to get me...
2 comments:
I experience this last year. My parent insisted me, wife and 4 kids stay with them as the house was big enough for all of us.
My mom even cried coz I've decided to move out.
Now, it's been 10 month since I left my parent's home. We visit them every weekend. Alhamdulillah, everything's ok now.
Agreed with Shamsul Salim, YOU MUST KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES...
Salam...hi Yusrie..its a tough situation. I know..i went thru the same but a choice had to be made so long as we don't neglect our responsibilty as a son.. :-)
Post a Comment